When Dates Get Awkward..

Hey guys, 

So, here's to another dating adventure of mine. After everything that had happened previously with my other dating situations I was finally ready to try a casual date again. I wasn't too sure if it was the right thing to do but I felt I should at least go and see and maybe it would take my mind off things. So, on Sunday night I met this guy for a day, he also happened to be an actor (I know what you're thinking, another actor) but he seemed quite sweet so I thought why not. He picked me up at 6.45pm to go for dinner and an improv show and like a gentleman he opened the car door for me, which is something I personally appreciate. We then drove to Korea Town to go to a small Korean restaurant.  The conversation was flowing well at first, but then it seemed to take a weird path when we began talking about our personal lives, ex's and what we wanted out of life. I felt this was all a little intense for a first date but I guess it made a change to most dates I go on. 

Whilst we were chatting I realized that my stick on bra was slipping off. I kept patting it to stick it back on because it wouldn't stop falling off, which I thought I was doing subtly, until he finally turns around to me and says "hey, why do you keep touching your boobs". I was a little shocked at his bluntness and embarrassed I had no idea what to say. I decided that after everything I'd gone through in my dating life already, what is one more awkward or embarrassing moment, so, I told him the truth that my sticky bra was no longer sticky and was actually falling off. Then he went on to say that he couldn't focus on what I was saying because he couldn't stop staring at my boobs. Trying to steer away from this inappropriate conversation I laughed it off and attempted to change the conversation.

After dinner we then went on to the UCB Inner Sanctum which is an improv school on Sunset Blvd for a joke quiz night. I have to admit I felt a little uncomfortable because there was not many people there and I will a little overdressed and I didn't really find any of the acts or jokes that funny. Even at one point when they tried to improv to the word England I couldn't help but cringe at what they were doing. I also felt pretty guilty because all I could think about the entire day was about the other guy that I wanted to date which meant I couldn't really enjoy myself because it just didn't feel right. 

During the night he continued to ask me very personal questions about my ex's and if I'm looking for marriage and kids and I was a little worried that we were getting ahead of ourselves way too soon. Once the quiz was over he asked me to go to a spa with him to get a foot massage, which I found a little creepy considering it was 11pm. I even asked him at one point if he meant and actual foot spa or if it was a euphemism. Luckily it was an actual foot spa, which happened to be closed when we got there, so instead he just dropped me back home. Me being clumsy, I realized when I got home that I had forgotten my keys and spent ten minute looking for them before having to call my roommate to let me in. As I'm searching for me keys he comments "I knew you wanted to stay in my car longer", I know he was making a joke, well I hope he was, but either way I couldn't help but feel creeped out.

Like the gentleman that he was, he walked me to the door and waited into my roommate came to let me in.  As I left I went to give him a hug but he leaned in and kissed me. I felt a little uncomfortable but smiled and thanked him for the lovely evening. 

The next day I recieved a message first of all bringing up the fact that my bra was falling off and making quite inappropriate comments about my boobs, which I actually had to ask him to stop becuse he was making me uncomfortable. He then continued to send messages asking for a second date. I told him I was busy, which I actually was but this didn't stop him. He then continued to ask me out every night that week. I was so busy at school that I genuinely couldn't meet but I felt guilty for not replying. Whilst in class I then kept receiving messages saying he doesn't understand my subtext which I was a little confused by. After that I then recieved another three texts about this and a voicemail at 11pm saying how much he wanted to hear my voice again. I realized that this was just too intense and I shouldn't probably say something now. 

Feeling really guilty about this and after having a long discussion with the other guy I was originally seeing I contacted him to say that I was very sorry but I just wasn't sure I was ready to date and it was all a little too much for me. Considering it was only a first date I assumed he would be ok about it, but instead I receive this very long message about how upset he was followed by a song that he has written for me. Although this was super sweet, I felt like it was way too much pressure. I apologized again and told him I think it's for the best and he just wouldn't give up. 

It kind of makes me think, no wonder these things happen. We always blame the guys but I think this is partially our own fault. We complain that men are not committed but then when the nice ones come along, we get creeped out by their sweetness or are not interested. I keep saying men are like drinks, I don't want a sweet camomile tea, but I also don't want a bottle of vodka. I am looking for something in the middle like coffee. Someone who you can have fun with and treats you well but also has confidence and a very subtle arrogance about them. I try so hard no to be fussy but I'm not willing to settle for just anyone. 

Basically what I am trying to say is I'm probably going to be single forever and live with fifteen cats, which I guess wouldn't be too bad because I actually love cats! 

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